Discussion Recap: Collaborations and Conflict

Summary of our discussion on features of successful / unsuccessful collaborations:

Successful Collaborations	Unsuccessful Collaborations
Individual follow-through; doing what was agreed/planned	Too much ego
Clear expectations	Vagueness about expectations, plans, vision
Accountability; deciding what happens if someone doesn’t follow through	Too much focus on outcome and not enough on process
Taking responsibility	Distance / detachment
Communication: early & often	Imbalances of: workload, power, decision-making
Acknowledging feelings and emotions	hierarchies
Intentionality
Making space for others

Summary of our discussion on times we've handled friction well / poorly:

Handled Friction Well	Handled Friction Poorly
Look at yourself, too; even if you’re 90% right, there is still 10% you can fix	Ego explosion
Express yourself; feelings, ideas, misgivings	Righteous indignation
Forgiveness	Defensiveness
Owning your mistakes	Rushing to judgment, rushing to action
Managing emotions; acknowledge them but don’t let them rule your decision-making	Inertia; Fighting fire with fire; letting things escalate
Take time / space; don’t rush to say or do anything, especially if the moment is heated
Treat people as people, not their “label” or their perceived identity